What is it? Respect is defined as “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.” Un biased respect is simply an admiration of someone, something or self just because they exist.
Respecting without necessarily attaching a clause of “abilities, qualities or achievements” is what I would call as un biased. It is an essential basis of trying to get us to raise above our fears, emotions, judgments and preconceptions.
We exist to make a difference in this world. This is what some of us believe and the rest just continue to live themselves. Living for self is natural but will not give you the satisfaction of existence. Change by adopting a new way of thinking in the form of un biased respect does not require a lot of turns down the road. It is quite simple, really.
Why is it necessary to attach a carrot at the end of anything we do for anyone or even for ourselves? Be it trying to be nice to someone just because they are likely to help you at some point in your life or even something as simple as smiling only if the other person “deserves” it according to your perception.
Agreed, that is what some of us grew up to believe that nothing is free in life and for that reason you do not give away anything free either.
Un biased respect will free you from those thoughts. Try it and it will liberate your thinking enough to let you concentrate on other more important things in life. We can not measure everything in life. Some of our thoughts and actions have to happen just because.
How do we break from the evil of wanting gratification at every turn?
Firstly remember that you need to respect yourself for this to work. Once you do that start thinking about your anxieties, apprehensions and fears. What do you like and what don’t you like. Next just free your mind from all the previous ways of dealing with other people, animals or things. Look at everything carefully and respect them for just being there. Connecting self respect with respect for others will immediately give you a boost to enable your thought process to begin inoculating the seed of un biased respect.
Take it one person and one thing at one time. It is not complex. It is simply un biased.