Happiness is about having fun


March 20th is International Day of Happiness. Think of something which will give you happiness and try to incorporate in your life.

Happiness is usually described asa mental or emotional state of well being characterized by positive or pleasant¬† emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”. 1

Happiness is of such fundamental importance to the human condition that ” Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness¬† were deemed to be unalienable rights by the United States Declaration of Independence.

Life to me is in between being born and dying. A baby is born innocent and free from all the prejudices. We are not born angry, jealous, or for that matter, vindictive. But we are born happy and completely equal to each other. The baby is mostly gurgling, cooing and smiling without a care in the world and definitely not worried about religious, gender, monetary or political intolerance or in equality. So happiness is one behavior which is not learned and yet that is something we forget as we grow into adulthood.

Why would we choose to adopt the ways of the world by being angry, abusive, jealous, revengeful and petty in our behavior. These are what I call as learned traits. Some of us are better at holding on to happiness and others just simply forget it.

What gives us happiness as we grow older? It is different for everyone as we constantly strive to achieve it. For some, it can be as simple as being able to eat three meals a day, having or not having children, getting married (or not), having a car, house and all the materialistic things you can think of. For others it is about helping others, donations and of course having a meaningful existence. Neither thought process is wrong nor right. But they are really not the true meaning of happiness because they are all attached to a carrot which needs to be obtained to get your happiness.

To me, happiness is about having fun. Yes just pure solid fun in which we can enjoy nature, go for a walk/run, dance, sing, or find the inner baby in us. If you do something for a reason (be it good or bad) then that is not happiness. It is not about helping or destroying people. It is about you the person and the simple act of finding that action which reflexively gives you intense pleasure.

For now as we celebrate International day of happiness on March 20th as declared by United Nations think of something which will give you happiness and try to incorporate it in your daily routine. Go find your inner happiness while listening to this song from Pharrell Williams- Happy.

Something so totally wrong


Death of three teenagers- it makes no sense. Killing of youth is never condonable. I am no expert about the issues of Israel region. However, I do know it is quite complex and has been for many years. But no matter what the issues and no matter what the perceived crime.  It will never make sense to have teenagers killed so senselessly- Рespecially when they are our next generation.

The news has become brazen with global issues such as multiple killings and rapes of young girls and women in India, abductions of girls in Nigeria, unrest in Ukraine, and terror in Iraq. The local issues are equally frightening and include ladies found in suitcases, children left in hot cars, and multiple mass shootings.

What is the point of all this? The message being conveyed is simple- it is a message of hate, terror and pure evil.

Something is so totally wrong that it has become quite reprehensible. Is it something we can forgive?

Not really because our core is shaken and our soul is crying.

It brings us back to what we would like our next generation to be? We want it to take us forward, carry us through this evil, survive and live.

For that to happen we will need to remain sensitive to our surroundings and go through every grief like our own. Feel it and react to it. However, we should not let hatred consume us because that is what will continue to make us choose the deadly path every single time.